I have clients who’ve endured some pretty horrendous stuff as children and adolescents. When I tell them these things are still impacting them, they wave me off with, “It happened a long time ago. It doesn’t matter anymore.” No matter how much I try to tell them that it does matter, they won’t hear of it. They just don’t or won’t buy it. The past was dark and painful. They believe there's no need to go back and revisit that crap; it’s better to leave the past in the past. But